Winny blogged about her chain of thoughts and feelings from the moment WK's mum brought up the topic of bringing Chloe along.
Like her, I had been wanting to share my thoughts and feelings for a long time now, except that this post is long overdue, in the backlog list.. So here I go..
WK's mum started this all, by asking Winny if she would let Chloe come with us. Frankly speaking, I was not keen. Although it was WK's mum who took care of Chloe whenever she came to our house for overnight, I'm don't think it will only be her responsibility if Chloe was to come to Malacca with us. In fact, I think WK and I will/should bear more responsibility than her.
I was surprised that Winny eventually agreed, as I thought she will deem it too dangerous. By then, Chloe and Lynn already knew that this was being discussed, and that Winny had agreed. For me, I hate to disappoint the kids (if there was any trip that's still in discussion and planning, WK and I usually don't let Lynn know, in case it doesn't materialize). So I didn't object, and decided to test it out.
How this trip turn out was that, WK's mum always enjoy herself tremendously whenever she visit her sister in Malacca. So much so that she didn't really pay much attention to the kids at all during this trip. Chloe and Lynn were always together. When I thought that it was time for Lynn to take a bath before lunch, the girls were together, so I got them both to do the soak and bath together. And when it was lunch time and we were at the table, it happened again very naturally that I cut the dishes into smaller pieces for both Lynn and Chloe. I remembered that WK's mum was happily chatting away with her sis and bro about the food.. So at that point in time, I realised that I'm going to be the one taking care of both of them rather than WK's mum.
It wasn't any trouble at all, I didn't really mind taking care of the kids. Chloe was well behaved during the trip. The only problem I actually had was with washing her long hair, as she's rather fussy when it comes to bathing. Other than that, she's cheerful and obedient, and such a darling to doll up :). I was actually wondering if that's how it felt to have 2 daughters rather than one.
I guess what still bothers me is that the kind of responsibility of keeping the kids safe. When nothing happens, everyone's happy, especially when we see how the girls thoroughly enjoyed the trip (and each other). But if accident were to happen, I wonder how our family (me, Winny, WK, MIL, etc) will react. Here's a very interesting fact to illustrate the hidden danger.
WK and I thought that our "strategy" will be to keep the girls at Aunt's house at all times. During our previous trips, we will bring Lynn to Jusco for shopping. We have heard of horror stories of kidnapping in the malls in Malaysia. On one of the morning (I can't remember whether it was day 2 or 3), I saw a neighbour came to talk to Aunt. After the neighbour left Aunt told us that this neighbour lives a few houses down the same stretch and that theft took place while they were out for work the day before. So WK and I were either with the girls and the 3 old folks at home when the theft took place, or WK and I were out at Jusco. I not sure what WK and Winny think of this. For me, I'm glad that the trip ended fun and safe, and I will think twice about agreeing to such an agreement in the future.
I didn't take much pic of the 2 of them, but I must state here in the post for rememberance sake, that the girls had loads and loads of fun. The memory and the experience are priceless, and I'm truely grateful of the chance to have shared this joy with them and now to share with all on this blog..
Here are the few pics
"Charlie and Lola Magazine" to keep the kids occupied when I want to keep them out of the sun
Meal time. Roti-prata was the all-time-favourite of the girls
I think these were taken on Day 2, of Lynn and Chloe, chasing and spraying water at each other
"take this!"
"run for your life!!"
"caught you when you turn around!"
1 comment:
Fully understand your concern, what you thought of me and what I thought of you are in fact very right, shall I say we know each other well? haha!
I had also thought about the 'what if' situations, like you, in order not to disappoint the girls and maybe partly to show that I can 'let go', I convinced myself eventually.
I had also thought of some 'terrible' things that could happen and if that happen am I going to blame my brother (or you), but I came at a conclusion that I should blame myself for the decision that I had made. Of course, I understand is a great responsibility on your side too, so really thank you for taking up the responsibility and giving the girls this unforgettable memory.
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